One of the best things about adulthood is learning to be you. Most times we are so engrossed/ worried about what people think about us that we honestly lose ourselves. It even becomes harder when society is often telling us how different we are and how we don’t fit in. In turn we have made being different such a bad word that you end up living a lie- career, hobbies, love, interests name it. Society then constantly points out your flaws, your inadequacies, and reminds you of your shortcomings.
Friends, a time comes when you need to find yourself, and silence the naysayers and basically stop listening to outside voices that want to pull you down at any given chance. Instead listen to your inner voice, your intuition which is waiting for you to find that, that makes you do you/ pursue your interests. As you grow up, listen to yourself more. You know the answers- you know what you want.
Don’t underestimate your wisdom and knowing what is best for yourself- and it’s not selfish at all. Figure out what makes you feel good in whatever capacity it is. Be aware of how you feel when you do things and what emotions it evokes and brings in making you whole again. Then do it as often as you can. This is your soul. You have just this one life to live- no other retakes. Are we together my friends?
Look, you have all the permission you need to do what you love to do or to be. Love who you need to love. Be who you want to be. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be. Do what you need to do to be you and don’t let anyone steal that away from you or talk you out of it because they think you are being selfish/ detached. This is your life, your destiny, your peace of mind. Discover your well being, you will see that you have nothing to fear, and you will allow yourself more happiness. Everyone else is living their life, even those judging you- so why deny yourself the chance to live yours?
And when you are done, let people know what your boundaries are and what you will and will not tolerate in your quest to be you. Listen, protect your peace, space and circle. And it’s perfectly OK. In a world that seems to be telling you day in day out to become something you are not, I want to tell you this- that you don’t have to be. Your joy lies in what makes you happy and doing what makes you, You. I am reminded by words of an author who said, “Being “unapologetically you” is your ultimate freedom.” This is my personal ultimate adulthood 101, loving every minute of being ME, I hope you embrace being you as early as possible. Existing Unapologetically.
Wearing; (Model’s own wardrobe) Men’s 2 Piece Lapels Made to Measure pastel Floral jacquard Suit with a Notched Lapel Sport Coat One Button Center Vent Slim Fit and Flat Front Free Length Pants with Slanted Side Pockets, White Cotton Ruffle shirt, and Shoes by Steve Madden Men’s risky Bit Loafers from New York.
Location; Ultra new modern Sankara Executive Room, Sankara Nairobi, Autograph Collection.
Photography; 99thSense photography (Dan Kiptoo)
Mood; Prince- Purple Rain